Post on @Quora by @JustOneJoey1: 30 Days Of Genius Blog: Tim Ferriss
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30 Days Of Genius Blog: Tim Ferriss
I am not happy, I am not satisfied inside. I don’t know what to do in my life and it’s purpose. I am 25 now. I lost my life. What to do?
I am not happy, I am not satisfied inside. I don't know what to do in my life and it's purpose. I … by Jatin Shankar
Answer by Jatin Shankar:
Spend a month without passive entertainment.
What is passive entertainment?
- Watching movies, cricket, serials, songs, porn etc.
- Reading novels and newspapers.
- Masturbation, sex etc.
- Surfing social websites like facebook.
- Doing anything which is fun but does not involves you intellectually or creatively.
Now, why should you avoid passive entertainment? Because they tame you. They give you joy and keep you going with a life that sucks. You first get brainwashed during your day and work, and when you finally have time for introspection or thinking, you compensate the bad day through passive entertainment which makes your sucking life a little comfortable and you find a reason to live. You get tamed by society and its expectations. You work hard during day and watch porn in free time. You compensate. You do not revolt.
Or maybe you do. That is why you posted this question.
Now, what will happen when you give up passive entertainment? You initially feel emotional shocks. You were addicted to passive entertainment, bollywood-hollywood bullshit too much. But slowly, you will become stable. Your life will appear before your eyes in its untinted ugly form, as mine appears before my eyes. But without stimulations from passive entertainment, your life will suck more. There will be no joy, no passive entertainment, no reason to live.
And then, you will have to find the reason. You will start doing small things that give you joy. If you loved trekking before, you will become crazy about it. If you loved painting before, you will start spending nights doing it. If you loved mathematics, your brain will start storming with ideas.
People will start calling you lunatic, but that’s what they call all extraordinary people.
Give up passive entertainment. Find out yourself. The real one.
What are the things that heartbreaks have taught you? by Anonymous
Answer by Anonymous:
If a person tells you he/she loves you, and if you know you love him/her too, don’t tell him/her how much you love him/her all at one go. If you are in too much love and if you tell him/her, he/she will know. Then the person will take you for granted. Love the person in your heart, but don’t tell him/her everything. Show him/her how much, when the situation arises. Hold on until then. Do not be in a hurry. If you show him/her you will do anything to get old with him/her, it is human tendency that, the person will tend to move on thinking he/she deserves better. How much ever you do further, it will loose it’s importance. Save yourself. I am not asking you to be manipulative. I am asking you to not be too desperate, thinking you are expressing a lot of love. I can’t write more.
What are some of the best life tips? by @laxmi_priyam
Answer by Laxmi Priya Marndi:
- If you keep telling the same sad small story, you will keep living the same sad small life.
- The more you love your decisions, the less you need others to love them.
- I read somewhere that how important it is in life, not necessarily to BE strong, but FEEL strong.
- If they don't know you personally, don't take it personal.
- You don't need to have it all figured out to move forward.
- Being happy is very personal thing and it really has nothing to do with anyone else.
- Don't be trapped by the need to achieve anything. This way you achieve everything.
- The true secret of happiness lies in taking a genuine interest in all the details of daily life.
- Without education, we are in a horrible and danger of taking educated people seriously.
- Attitude is more important than facts.
Life Advice: What are some of the most important things that we should be informed about in lif… by @NelsonsThoughts
Answer by Nelson Wang:
I'm 30 years old. I wish I could travel back in time.
If I could, I would sit down with myself at 18 years old and give this life advice.
I can't time travel, so I'll just write this article instead.
Here are the top 10 life lessons I would pass on:
1. Your health is your #1 priority – If you can't take care of yourself, you won't be able to take care of anyone else. Treat your body as your #1 priority.
How do you do this?
Be conscious of how your body feels – I love cupcakes. I love chicken nuggets. I love burgers. When I was a kid, I used to be eat tons of this stuff and would feel just fine. Seriously, I used to eat 36 chicken nuggets in one sitting! Nowadays, if I eat any of these, my body feels off. If I eat a fruit and vegetable smoothie though, I feel lighter, energetic and healthier. Your body sends you signals all the time when you eat. Pay attention to them. And nourish your body. You probably won't be perfect. I'm not. I still eat a burger from time to time. But if you try to keep your body healthy more often than not, you'll be in much better shape long term.
Make time to exercise by establishing a routine – We are creatures of habit. Create good habits when it comes to working out. One way I was able to consistently workout is to have it on my schedule for 5:30 PM every day after work. I also gave up my car in the city (I live in San Francisco) so the only way for me to get home is by running or walking.
2. Take risks – There is a risk to not taking a risk. It's complacency. It's stagnancy. When I was young I was really afraid of taking risks. I was afraid to join startups, even after being in the technology field for 7 years.
Finally, I saw a friend of mine join a really hot startup and he convinced me to make the jump. When I joined Box just 3 years ago, it was one of the best decisions of my life. I went into a role with a steep learning curve, learned how to build up a business unit from scratch, traveled to over 50 cities in a year and met some of the most amazing people at work – some of which will be friends for life.
Another quick example: I know nothing about building websites. And yet, two months ago, I built one from scratch with a friend and now
Embrace risk and have a bias towards action. Action drives results.
The reality is that you usually can't be 100% certain about anything until you actually experience it. So dip your toes into the water.
Speaking of risks…
3. Take smart risks – Maybe you shouldn't dip that toe in the water. Not all risks are worth taking. Thinking about the expected value you can get by taking that risk and make sure it's a smart bet. Don't be foolish and take a risk that doesn't have the appropriate upside. Do as much due diligence as you can in advance.
4. It's okay to put your phone down – Today, I was waiting to onboard my flight from Boston to San Francisco. I was looking at my phone and after getting mental fatigue from staring at a screen for an obscene amount of time (1.5 hours with only small breaks in between), I decided to look at everyone around me. Guess what I saw? A ton of people with their heads down…looking at their phones. Sometimes getting a ton of information on demand isn't always a good thing.
The next time you have dinner with friends, put your phone down. You'll probably have a great conversation and a lot of laughs.
The next time your father tells you about his day, really listen to what he's saying.
The next time you're traveling in a foreign country, take in the amazing culture and immerse yourself. Learn the language. Try the different foods. And put down the phone. Unless you're taking an Instagram photo. #BecauseSomeFoodsAreInstagramWorthy
5. Less is more – When it comes to stuff, you don't need a lot of it. Somewhere along the way, we were told that accumulating material goods resulted in happiness. While money will be absolutely important for basic necessities like food and shelter, using it to accumulate a ton of stuff doesn't typically equate to happiness.
Stuff has administrative debt.
Have a lot of clothes? The debt is a bigger closet.
Have a really fancy luxury car? The debt is a high insurance premium, costly maintenance packages and a huge headache if you ever get into an accident.
Clean out the clutter and donate it. I do this at least once a year. Ask yourself – "Do I really need this?"
Simple is good.
6. More is better – Wait, didn't I say "less is good?" Well, there's an exception to that rule. More is better – At least when it comes to experiences. Traveling the world can expand your horizons. You can learn new cultures and redefine the way you see the world. Who knows, you might even meet the love of your life while traveling.
Money used for experiences can be life changing.
Speaking of currency…
7. The most important currency in life is time – I had a family friend who spent much of his life saving up money to eventually live the life he always wanted. After decades of saving, he was involved in a tragic accident. He never had the chance to live the life he always dreamed of.
Money is important, but time is even more important.
Utilize money to help you find more time.
Time with your family.
Time with your friends.
Time with your spouse.
Time with kids.
Time with people you want to help.
There are 525,600 minutes in a year. How do you spend your time?
8. Not every fire is a real fire – Nelson, you need to start working on this (insert perceived work catastrophe here) right now! Fix it!
I call those work fires. I used to hear about work fires early on in my career a lot. And I would pull my hair out in the process. Yes, sometimes these work catastrophes really had to be fixed immediately. But not all of them. Sometimes, people would forget about it after a week. Even if it wasn't fixed.
So take a deep breath, realize it's not (usually) the end of the world and size up the situation. And then fix it. But don't let it get to you. Own it.
9. Go 3 "Why's" deep – It's easy to get caught up in the tactical parts of life and work all the time. When I was building an iPhone app with my two co-founders, we had an idea for a dating app. At one point, we ended up rolling out a few different features for the app. One change was to gate the app after three swipes and to ask people to share the app on their social networks before they could swipe more. "Brilliant!" we exclaimed. "We'll get so many more users on this app." Or so we thought. The new feature didn't make an impact at all.
When we huddled during our next meeting, one of the co-founders, Steve, challenged me on the app. Looking back now, asking the 3 Why's would have helped us tremendously. Here's an example below:
1. Why are you building this app?
"There's a huge business opportunity since there's a gap in this niche dating space."
2. Why do your users want to use this app?
"Because they want to fall in love."
3. Why are you goals different from your users?
There was a long silence on the phone.
My mind was blown. I realized this whole time that the right way to build a product is to have an extreme passion and obsession around driving an amazing customer experience. My core why should have been "help people fall in love," rather than "it's a great business opportunity." I had been thinking about it wrong the entire time and the 3 Why's exercise helped me see that.
So what did we do? We went back to the drawing board.
10. Be yourself – You're weird. You're unique. You're different. And that's awesome. Be the great person you were meant to be.
When I was young, I used to smile during conversations all the time, even when I wasn't feeling happy. I thought "Gosh, this will make people more comfortable talking to me because I look happy all the time." One day, one of my best friends pulled me aside and gave me some sage advice (I'm paraphrasing): "Hey bud, you know, sometimes when I think something isn't funny, I don't laugh for the sake of laughing. If I don't find something interesting or I'm not happy at the moment, I won't smile either. I want to show people exactly what I feel."
That was a game changing moment for me. Ever since then, I've always tried to do exactly that. I want people's experiences with me to be 100% genuine and transparent. After all, isn't that the best way to deeply connect with someone? Be authentic. Be yourself.
Be all the awesomeness you were meant to be.
What are some dressing hacks everyone should know? by Pankaj Agarwal
Answer by Pankaj Agarwal:
- If your jeans has not been washed for long and it smells.. you can put it in refrigerator overnight and next morning.. ta da.. its absolutely fine, feeling like washed. Everyone will think you are just cool (pun intended!)
- If your tie keeps coming out of the collar, especially from behind.. you can have a small button & loop placed inside the collar and wear your tie under it
- If you have trouble choosing what to wear every morning, try choosing it the night before. It will save you a good 15-20 mins in morning
- If you think your jeans goes loose after 3-4 days of wear and have no clue why.. just put it in wash. It will come back to being fit
- If you do not want to apply perfume (it being bad for skin), you can place flowers (or any fragrance you like) between your garments overnight. It will acquire the fragrance and no damage done to the skin
- Its not a dressing hack.. but a solution for blackheads.. put little bit of regular white toothpaste on a toothbrush and apply it on your nose / skin in a circular motion, very softly. Do it for 2-3 minutes and wash it off.. all the blackheads, including the toughest ones, will be gone
- You can use hair straightening machine to iron your shirt collar
- match your belt with color family of socks and shoes. so no brown belt with black shoes please
- When packing pair of socks in a suitcase, hold each pair together and roll it using the open end of one sock such that the fold takes the other sock inside the first. you will then have only round piece… no chance of losing one
- Apply cream / oil on semi dry skin (after shower). It gets absorbed better and lasts longer
- If those tiny things keep coming out from the side of your nail that cause pain when touching.. apply vaseline / cream on the nail instead of trying to cut it. They will become softer & the pain will go away
- Apply 2 clove oil drops on your body before sleeping. Mosquitoes will keep away and you will be fresh next morning
- Apply face pack just when you are about to sit on pot. By the time you are done with latter, face pack would have worked too. Save those crucial minutes in the morning
- Remove deo stains on clothes with baby wipes
- Put dry tea bags in smelly shoes to remove the odour
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Life Lessons: What can I learn in one minute that will be useful for the rest of my life? by Jaydev Ashra
Answer by Jaydev Ashra:
Proper ways to Drink Water, or any liquid. (Described in Ayurveda)
These rules are so straightforward, perhaps even obvious or intuitive. But they might make a serious difference in the way you feel on a daily basis.
- First off, sit down to drink (just as you should sit down to eat).
- Take sips, not full-glass chugs. Small sip, swallow, breathe. Repeat.
- Sip water throughout the day. If you chug too much water at once your body doesn’t actually absorb all of it. Most of it will run right through you.
- Drink at least room temperature water. Warm is even better. Cold and iced water literally douse the digestive fire.
“Water before a meal is nectar. It replenishes fluids and encourages juicy digestive organs. Small sips during a meal is honey. It helps turn the food into a sauce. Water after a meal is poison because it dilutes stomach acids.” –
Dr. Vasant Lad
- Only sip a small amount of water with your meals. If you drink too much while you eat, your belly won’t have enough room for digestive action. Remember this rule: fill your stomach 50% with food, 25% with water, and leave 25% empty for the digestive juices and process.
- For the same reason, don’t drink loads of water before or after your meals. Fill 50% with food, 25% with water, and leave 25% empty.
- Drink when you’re thirsty. Thirst is a natural urge that should be heeded. It means your body needs water.
- As far as how much, we’re all different sizes with varied diets and lifestyles. One set rule of eight glasses a day simply can not apply to everyone. Naturally, the miraculous human body has it’s own built-in measuring system: thirst. If you’re thirsty, drink water. When you listen to thirst cues and sip water throughout the day you’ll be drinking the right amount.
- Your urine is a secondary confirmation to know if you’re amply hydrated. It should be fairly clear and straw colored. If it’s dark yellow you need to drink more.
- Your lips are yet another indicator. If they’re dry you might be dehydrated.
Courtesy: elephant journal